Thanksgiving. Dude, chill! Enjoy your Tofurkey already!


This is the time of year when I watch my friends, and many members of my family, start to freak out to the extent that they forget to be thankful .    They rush around and shop and bring out the “good” china and stress over every last detail so that by the time the Thanksgiving meal is on the table, they are miserable and they’ve made virtually everyone around them miserable.  (Not to mention those poor turkeys that are slaughtered by the thousands!)    Oh, they know how to put on a “production”….but WHY?  At the end of the day, who really cares?   Yeah, I have my  Limoges china in the cabinet, and I enjoy a well-set table….but  big whoop.  What does it all mean?  The important thing is the fellowship.  The having fun.  The conversation.  The love.

maya and stacy

When John and I lived in the Bay Area, we would sometimes eat Thanksgiving dinner here:

It wasn’t that I didn’t want to cook, because I’ve put on my own big Thanksgiving productions many times, and I know how to do it “right”.    This  was the thought of gathering together with other like-minded individuals and having fabulous conversations, trying new wines and foods, making new friends, learning more about world issues and simply having fun in one of the most beautiful cities in the world.   (When we had our recommitment ceremony, we took the entire wedding party here, including all of the musicians and the owners of the gallery where it was held, and we all had a huge meal together.  It was wonderful! )

I sort of feel sorry for people that boast about knowing how to set a “proper” table, as though that somehow elevates them socially (when it is something anyone can look up on Google) instead of knowing how to kick back, relax and have a good time without worrying about doing things that “right” way.   It almost becomes a competition for some people.

Reading Mrs Beeton’s book of Household Management does not, my friends, impart class. Show a monkey how to drop a rock into a jar and it can drop a rock into a jar. Embracing one’s friends and family? Now, THAT takes skillz, and is the mark of a truly “classy” person. Doesn’t matter if your dishes match or not…and tea actually tastes better when you drink it out of a Mason jar. Scientifically substantiated! My point? Don’t sweat the small stuff. Have fun this Thanksgiving….and be thankful.

Here is a little video that I took of one of the most fun Thanksgivings ever.  We had such a wonderful time!  These people were singers and dancers and doctors and lawyers and artists and folks from all walks of life.  The food was fabulous.  It was a potluck.  We often met with this group to share meals in various people’s homes.

The point is wherever you are….however you choose to celebrate…have fun…and love one another.  Ya dig?

Oh…..and just for laughs….this little girl is doing one of my favorite scenes from one of my favorite films, “The Ice Storm.”  (In the film, Christina Ricci does this bit, but I couldn’t find it on YouTube…)