You know the type. Even though he cheats on her….even though he bashes her behind her back…even though he is a serial liar, she clings to him, because she can’t live without a man to accompany her. Regardless of what he does, she HAS to have a man beside her or she doesn’t feel worthy or complete. She is insecure.
However, if you’re in a relationship with a person who used to make him or her happy and no longer does, what keeps that person there is not love, it’s fear….. so don’t talk to me about being soft-hearted or forgiving, because you’re a fool, if this applies to you, and everyone who knows the two of you also understands this. They just don’t have the heart to tell you.
If he has cheated once, he will do it again…and HAS…and still continues to. You think by staying in an unhappy and unfulfilling relationship you are doing the right thing. You convince yourself that things will get better, that he’ll change and that it’s not that bad, you can live with things the way they are. But the truth is you can’t and you know it. Pegi Young is a woman who has said, “To hell with it…” and has forged a whole new life for herself, despite the public humiliation of her former husband’s infidelities. I admire her for this.
Pegi Young turned that negative experience into a positive one. She turned it into art.
This morning, NPR did a show about how Neil Young had dumped his wife of 36 years for the younger, prettier Daryl Hannah, shown here relaxing in France.
But this story isn’t really about Neil Young. It is about his ex wife, Pegi….the woman who was jilted….because she didn’t ‘just crawl into a hole and go away. She embraced what happened to her in a way that puts Neil to shame. Yes, “the best revenge is living well,” or so they say, and Pegi Young is doing just that.
I’ve heard a lot of people criticize her for putting out this album and drawing attention to herself at “this age” but I love it that she did this. Her album is not necessarily my cup of tea, and I have been a Neil Young fan forever, but I admire Pegi for taking the reigns and being in command of her own destiny regardless of what he did to her. Making this album demonstrated tremendous inner strength, and it doesn’t matter how old she is, what she looks like, how “jilted” she was when she did it. She did it to heal, and I admire her for it.
Her new album is called, “Raw”….and it is. She said that writing the songs that are on it is what got her through, i.e. saved her life. Each of her new songs deals with one of the seven stages of grief. In this song, “Trying to Live my Life Without You,” Pegi wrote, “We regretted the changes that brought us to now. I’d take it all back if I only knew how. You can drive on away with the weight of demand. And the road keeps on going until you find where you land….”
She has made a statement that makes HER look like the better person. She has taken a pile of shit and turned it into gold. I have so much respect for a person who does something like this instead of deciding to wallow in the shit as their lives go by with disrespect from their partners. Pegi Young is a strong woman. A REAL woman, and she has my respect.