up the lithe neck,
the sounds of
Filling the room
that invites one
up the lithe neck,
the sounds of
Filling the room
that invites one
You know the type. Even though he cheats on her….even though he bashes her behind her back…even though he is a serial liar, she clings to him, because she can’t live without a man to accompany her. Regardless of what he does, she HAS to have a man beside her or she doesn’t feel worthy or complete. She is insecure.
However, if you’re in a relationship with a person who used to make him or her happy and no longer does, what keeps that person there is not love, it’s fear….. so don’t talk to me about being soft-hearted or forgiving, because you’re a fool, if this applies to you, and everyone who knows the two of you also understands this. They just don’t have the heart to tell you.
If he has cheated once, he will do it again…and HAS…and still continues to. You think by staying in an unhappy and unfulfilling relationship you are doing the right thing. You convince yourself that things will get better, that he’ll change and that it’s not that bad, you can live with things the way they are. But the truth is you can’t and you know it. Pegi Young is a woman who has said, “To hell with it…” and has forged a whole new life for herself, despite the public humiliation of her former husband’s infidelities. I admire her for this.
Pegi Young turned that negative experience into a positive one. She turned it into art.
This morning, NPR did a show about how Neil Young had dumped his wife of 36 years for the younger, prettier Daryl Hannah, shown here relaxing in France.
But this story isn’t really about Neil Young. It is about his ex wife, Pegi….the woman who was jilted….because she didn’t ‘just crawl into a hole and go away. She embraced what happened to her in a way that puts Neil to shame. Yes, “the best revenge is living well,” or so they say, and Pegi Young is doing just that.
I’ve heard a lot of people criticize her for putting out this album and drawing attention to herself at “this age” but I love it that she did this. Her album is not necessarily my cup of tea, and I have been a Neil Young fan forever, but I admire Pegi for taking the reigns and being in command of her own destiny regardless of what he did to her. Making this album demonstrated tremendous inner strength, and it doesn’t matter how old she is, what she looks like, how “jilted” she was when she did it. She did it to heal, and I admire her for it.
Her new album is called, “Raw”….and it is. She said that writing the songs that are on it is what got her through, i.e. saved her life. Each of her new songs deals with one of the seven stages of grief. In this song, “Trying to Live my Life Without You,” Pegi wrote, “We regretted the changes that brought us to now. I’d take it all back if I only knew how. You can drive on away with the weight of demand. And the road keeps on going until you find where you land….”
She has made a statement that makes HER look like the better person. She has taken a pile of shit and turned it into gold. I have so much respect for a person who does something like this instead of deciding to wallow in the shit as their lives go by with disrespect from their partners. Pegi Young is a strong woman. A REAL woman, and she has my respect.
This is, perhaps, one of the most exciting times in my entire life. I am paving the way to begin walking an entirely new path toward new goals and it feels great. I am probably busier than I’ve been since my children were little, but I have stores of energy, and tons of enthusiasm that keep me going each day. I have a supportive partner….two supportive partners, really….and I feel like a million bucks.
One thing that I’m doing that might seem a little wacky for a woman my age, is I’m taking a singing masterclass from Christina Agulara. Yep. You read that correctly.
While I do have a strong singing voice and I do sing, from time to time, I do not aspire to be a famous pop star. Instead, I am taking the class to learn her teaching approach and methods. Virtually everything I do these days is to prepare for my new business, and this is far from all I am doing .
I have found a dedicated business partner who complements those areas that I lack, and I complement hers as well. We are planning our first workshop/retreat for next April, and it is exciting indeed! I’m running around like crazy looking at venues, working on marketing, taking pictures, writing curriculum, developing products, writing …writing…writing…networking…making new business connections.
A lot of my workshops will be centered around music and musicians (as this is an important, special part of my life,) so I am learning the inner bones….the when, where, why and how of the technical aspects. Those things, combined with my background in psychology are what have me so geared up and ready to go with these workshops.
While I do have my masters in psychology, I am now actively working to enhance that with life coaching certification classes from the Integrative Wellness Academy. I feel that the two credentials integrated will help me with my workshops. Should take a few months to earn my certification.
In other news….my songwriting efforts are progressing in leaps and bounds, as is my guitar playing. Taking classes for both. I have really had a breakthrough and feel as though I am soaring. I am so happy. I love my life. Honestly. It is a good life, one that is far from perfect, but that is filled with and operated by love. I could not ask for a better and more supportive family-family AND family of friends. Being confident in my love is a wonderful feeling.
I have signed up for a new yoga program that will also be integrated into our workshops. I am making art by the hour. I am on a roll…..like butta. Man, this is good. I have never felt happier. Love helps. 😉 It is what I live for.
This is six year old, Ingrid. She worked very hard on her impersonation of Sarah Palin. I hope you enjoy it, and that you will share it if you do!
Thanks for watching!
We celebrated my birthday two days ago with a beautiful array of activities and interactions with friends and family.
The day began with a beautiful 3 a.m. text message greeting that made my heart sing, accompanied by a funny, musical phone message so garbled that I could barely hear it, because of the bad connection, but it still made me smile. Things just kept getting better and better throughout the day. Phone calls….gifts….beautiful gestures made by various people. I truly felt loved.
John had arranged a beautiful brunch cruise along the Willamette River aboard a yacht. The weather was cold and overcast, but the sun broke out from time to time, making the trip absolutely perfect. The yacht was three stories tall, and we periodically strolled from deck to deck, enjoying live jazz and beautiful scenery.
Here is a little video of the cruise:
Ingrid , shown below with her glass of sparkling apply juice, was the star of the show when she sang happy birthday to me.
I cried from the sweetness of this gesture, which was something that she cooked up herself. As you can see, the crowd was also touched by this. I love how she bends that note at the beginning of the song. So cute!
John enjoyed the gorgeous scenery as much as I did.
The food was exquisite, and we had delicious, fresh mimosas to go with.
The whole trip lasted around 2.5 hours. It was peaceful, beautiful, and much appreciated by this birthday girl….and by a little piggy (shown below).
Afterward, we attended an awesome art show, which I found wholly inspiring. Then, we went to my daughter’s house for a traditional dinner. She baked the most delicious coconut cake for me, which Ingrid decorated with pretty gold candles.
I felt truly blessed this year….truly loved and deeply happy, knowing that those who took the time out of their lives to acknowledge my birth really love me. Sometimes, I feel like the luckiest woman alive. This was one of those perfect birthdays that I will never forget. Many thanks to my family and to my friends who made it all possible.
This from Rolling Stone Magazine……
Gail Zappa, wife of Frank Zappa and executrix of the Zappa Family Trust, has died. She was 70. A cause of death has not been revealed, though TMZ reported she had had a long battle with lung cancer. Zappa, “departed this earth peacefully at her home … surrounded by her children,” according to a statement from the Zappa Family Trust.
“Gail will forever be identified as a key figure in the creative renaissance that is Laurel Canyon,” the statement says. “But more than any singular accomplishment, she defined herself in her personal relationships, happiest when surrounded by loved ones and artists, often one in the same. The memories she leaves behind are indeed her own art form. Her searing intelligence, unforgettable smile, wild thicket of hair and trailing black velvets leave a blur in her wake.”
After her prolific husband died of prostate cancer in 1993, Gail kept Frank’s recordings in the public, putting out dozens of posthumous albums and judiciously licensing his image where appropriate. Earlier this year, the Zappa family announced that the couple’s son Ahmet would be in charge of the Trust.
Gail, whose full maiden name was Adelaide Gail Sloatman, was born on January 1st, 1945, the daughter of a nuclear weapons research physicist with the U.S. Navy, according to Zappa biographer Barry Miles. She lived with her family in London as a teenager and got a job as a secretary for the Office of Naval Research and Development rather than attend college. She met Doors frontman Jim Morrison in kindergarten, since they both had high-ranking naval officials for fathers (Frank once told a story that she hit Morrison over the head with a hammer). She eventually moved to New York, where she attended the Fashion Institute of Technology in the mid-Sixties and immersed herself in the music scene before hitchhiking to Los Angeles with a friend.
In Los Angeles, Gail met and befriended future Runaways manager Kim Fowley, and recorded an album with him billed to Bunny and Bear; Miles noted that she was “Bear.” She met her husband-to-be when she was the secretary at the Sunset Strip mainstay the Whisky a Go Go. In his autobiography, The Real Frank Zappa Book, the artist called her a “fascinating little vixen,” with whom “it took a couple of minutes, but I fell (don’t laugh) in love.”
They started living together and married in a “severely ridiculous civil ceremony” in 1967. Frank recounted the ceremony comically in the book, stating that Gail was nine months pregnant at the time, and that he didn’t have a wedding ring and that she still didn’t have a wedding ring at the time he wrote the book, which came out in 1989.
The couple had four children – Moon Unit, Dweezil, Ahmet and Diva – over the course of their marriage, which lasted until Frank’s death. The composer recalled affectionately in his book that it was her idea to name their son Dweezil, after a “funny-looking little toe” she had. “I thought then, and continue to think today, that Dweezil is a nice name,” Frank wrote. “Fuck the nurse if she didn’t like it.”
After setting up the Zappa Family Trust, Gail issued 38 albums between 1994 and 2015 of previously unreleased music that Frank had recorded. This year’s Dance Me This was billed as Frank’s final album and is significant for being his 100th record.
Gail spoke with Rolling Stone in August about a documentary that filmmaker Alex Winter is making about Frank’s life. “My obligation was to get the work out there the way Frank built it in the first place,” she said of her role after his death.
She also shared what she hoped the documentary, due sometime in 2017, would explain. “If I was gonna have to do this myself, I would want the question answered: ‘Why the fuck would anyone want to be a composer?'” she said. “I know the answer to that, because I lived it. I just want it revealed.”
Whoa….It looks like we just may have a new blues hero here! Teen guitarist Chase Walker is being referred to as “the new Stevie Ray Vaughan”, or “the new Kenny Wayne Shepherd.” American Blues Scene calls him one of the top 10 musicians under 18 you should know. After I watched this video I knew why. Wow.
Walker, who is from Riverside, California, was born in 1998 and didn’t start playing guitar until 2010. His influences include Vaughan, Warren Haynes, the Black Crowes and the Black Keys. Since I knew Vaughan a little bit, I’m excited about this.
To quote the Big Bear Grizzly, the Chase Walker Band formed in 2012 and includes Matt Fyke on drums and vocals and Randon Davitt on bass and vocals. In 2013, Walker’s song “Too Many Days Ago” was a finalist in John Lennon International Songwriting Contest.
The band released its debut album, Unleashed, last year.
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I kid you not. I almost fainted when I watched this the first time. It is divine….in every possible way.
Lavender has been studied recently for several purposes including treatment of mood and anxiety disorders, as well as a number of other things. Its analgesic effect, however, its painkiller effect, is one of the widely studied properties. Surprising, then, that there hasn’t apparently been a single documented clinical trial to study lavender for the treatment of migraine headaches that affects tens of millions of Americans every year. Until now: “Lavender Essential Oil in the Treatment of Migraine Headache: A Placebo-Controlled Clinical Trial.”
Migraine sufferers were asked to—at the early signs of headache—rub 2–3 drops of the lavender essential oil onto their upper lip and inhale its vapor for a 15-min period of time and score the severity of their headache for the next two hours. In the control group they did the same thing except they used drops of basically unscented liquid wax. Neither group was allowed to use any painkillers. In the lavender group 74% of patients had an improvement in their symptoms, significantly better than placebo. Though in the study lavender wasn’t directly compared to more conventional treatments, lavender appears to stack up pretty well compared to typical drugs. Lavender helped about three quarters of the time, high dose Tylenol only works about half the time, and Ibuprofen 57% of the time. The #1 prescription drug, generic imitrex, is effective 59% of the time, and then the hardcore treatment they use in emergency rooms where they inject you under the skin, 70%. All of these work better than the original migraine therapy, known as trepanning, where doctors drilled a hole in your head to let the evil spirits escape.
Conclusion: The present study suggests that inhalation of lavender essential oil may be an effective and safe treatment modality in acute management of migraine headaches.
You can buy pharmaceutical grade lavender for $21 HERE.