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up the lithe neck,
the sounds of
Filling the room
that invites one
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I form my opinions by listening to ALL sides of an argument. I don’t just listen to people who agree with me. I also listen carefully to those who do not agree with me, and I carefully consider all sides before I form my own opinions. That’s what a good journalist does.
I figure that with as many followers as I have, there must be some of you who are not feminists. I am writing an article about why one might choose NOT to be a feminist. This discussion is open to feminists and non-feminists alike, but I would really like to hear from non-feminists who oppose feminism. There will be no snarking. No name-calling. No meanness. No one is going to attack you for your opinion.
I want to hear your opinions and to learn why it is any woman (especially) but man, also, would choose NOT to be a feminist, because when I think about it, I can’t think of even one rational reason why one would not be. Please begin by telling me what feminism even IS to you, in terms of your understanding of it. Your input will be very much appreciated.
Looking forward to an adult discussion, so do comment generously, even if you have no personal opinion on this matter, but know of someone else who does. I’m interested in what their rationale is.
If this is a sensitive topic for you, and you would prefer to write to me privately, rather than post as a comment here, that will be fine, too. I always like to hear both sides of things.
The REAL Patriots are the protestors.
Donald Trump says that he supports a peaceful protest because it’s an American right….but not the protest about black oppression and racism…..and this is the problem. Any protest that he, or any conservative, does not agree with, is, according to conservatives, a protest that should be stopped.
Martin Luther King should have marched across a different bridge. Young black Americans should have gone to a different college and found a different lunch counter, and college kids in the 60’s had no right to protest an immoral war.
People who served in the military during the Vietnam war ….some of them with injuries that our President would have claimed disqualified them from doing so. They served anyway, because they loved their country. Their friends were killed in combat….their brothers. Those people did not die so that you could decide who is a patriot and who loves America more.
The young black athletes are not disrespecting America nor the military by taking a kneel during the anthem. They are respecting the best thing about America. It’s a dog whistle to the uneducated, racist rednecks among us to say otherwise. They, and each one of us, should protest how Black Americans are treated in this country. And if you don’t think white privilege is a fact, you simply don’t understand America.
The comedian, Chris Rock, says it best. There’s not a white man in America who would trade places with him….and he’s rich. It has not gone unnoticed that trump has spoken out against the Mexicans who want to come to America for a better life, against the Muslims, and now, the great black athletes. However, he keeps his mouth shut for days, about the white men who marched under a Nazi flag in Charlottesville, except to remind us, there were “good people” there. And when he finally tried to say the right thing, NOT ONE of them was called an S.O.B., nor did he say they should be fired.
We have white men in America who wave the Nazi flag or the Confederate flag, and he’s concerned about taking a knee because it “disrespects” this flag. We use that flag to sell mattresses and beer. We wear it as swimsuits, and wrap our bald heads in flag bandanas, and stick it in our pants, because we disrespect that flag every single day.
Perhaps we all need to read the Constitution again. There has never been a better use of pen to paper. Our forefathers made freedom of speech the first amendment. They listed 10, and not one of them says, “You have to stand during the anthem,” and I’m pretty sure that those men respected the country that they fought for and founded, a great deal more than the self-proclaimed patriots who are simply ignorant hypocrites, because they want to deny the basic freedom of this great country, a country they supposedly value and cherish so much.
Here Are A Bunch Of Ways Americans Disrespect Our Flag Daily–And No One Complains About It
This is, perhaps, one of the most exciting times in my entire life. I am paving the way to begin walking an entirely new path toward new goals and it feels great. I am probably busier than I’ve been since my children were little, but I have stores of energy, and tons of enthusiasm that keep me going each day. I have a supportive partner….two supportive partners, really….and I feel like a million bucks.
One thing that I’m doing that might seem a little wacky for a woman my age, is I’m taking a singing masterclass from Christina Agulara. Yep. You read that correctly.
While I do have a strong singing voice and I do sing, from time to time, I do not aspire to be a famous pop star. Instead, I am taking the class to learn her teaching approach and methods. Virtually everything I do these days is to prepare for my new business, and this is far from all I am doing .
I have found a dedicated business partner who complements those areas that I lack, and I complement hers as well. We are planning our first workshop/retreat for next April, and it is exciting indeed! I’m running around like crazy looking at venues, working on marketing, taking pictures, writing curriculum, developing products, writing …writing…writing…networking…making new business connections.
A lot of my workshops will be centered around music and musicians (as this is an important, special part of my life,) so I am learning the inner bones….the when, where, why and how of the technical aspects. Those things, combined with my background in psychology are what have me so geared up and ready to go with these workshops.
While I do have my masters in psychology, I am now actively working to enhance that with life coaching certification classes from the Integrative Wellness Academy. I feel that the two credentials integrated will help me with my workshops. Should take a few months to earn my certification.
In other news….my songwriting efforts are progressing in leaps and bounds, as is my guitar playing. Taking classes for both. I have really had a breakthrough and feel as though I am soaring. I am so happy. I love my life. Honestly. It is a good life, one that is far from perfect, but that is filled with and operated by love. I could not ask for a better and more supportive family-family AND family of friends. Being confident in my love is a wonderful feeling.
I have signed up for a new yoga program that will also be integrated into our workshops. I am making art by the hour. I am on a roll…..like butta. Man, this is good. I have never felt happier. Love helps. 😉 It is what I live for.
Whoa….It looks like we just may have a new blues hero here! Teen guitarist Chase Walker is being referred to as “the new Stevie Ray Vaughan”, or “the new Kenny Wayne Shepherd.” American Blues Scene calls him one of the top 10 musicians under 18 you should know. After I watched this video I knew why. Wow.
Walker, who is from Riverside, California, was born in 1998 and didn’t start playing guitar until 2010. His influences include Vaughan, Warren Haynes, the Black Crowes and the Black Keys. Since I knew Vaughan a little bit, I’m excited about this.
To quote the Big Bear Grizzly, the Chase Walker Band formed in 2012 and includes Matt Fyke on drums and vocals and Randon Davitt on bass and vocals. In 2013, Walker’s song “Too Many Days Ago” was a finalist in John Lennon International Songwriting Contest.
The band released its debut album, Unleashed, last year.
I am not one of those people who plasters photos of the 9-11 tragedy all over my social media platforms. It is my preference to honor those who died by living my life honorably, but remembering that they were Americans, and by cherishing my country and accepting its people regardless of their race, creed or sexual orientations. That said, I would like to share this video of Paul Simon honoring them in his on way, with his music.
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Life is a balance between holding on and letting go.
Things have changed.
I used to walk into a room and wonder if the people there would like me. Now, when I walk into a room, I wonder if I will like them. The need for external validation is not important to me, at this point in life, and I don’t have to actually like someone for them to have value in my life, nor to have value in theirs. If there is a job to be done, I simply do it. I have optimized, categorized and am moving full speed ahead. I am letting go of the negative and embracing those positive relationships that are good.
The relationships that remain are solid.
I have learned to let go of the people and things that do not serve my best interests…the ones that hurt and deceive me ….and this has really helped me to stay focused and to do good work. This has freed up a tremendous amount of emotional and physical energy. It can be difficult when one lets go of family members or of people who were once close friends…..but as things turn out, letting go of those with whom your values, ethics, morals and beliefs do not align, can help propel you forward and free you to do what you are best suited to do in life.
The people that *really* matter to me are functionally in my life, although I am forced to use that term (“functionally”) loosely when referring to one significant person. That is an unfortunate situation that I cannot talk about here.
The solution was simple. I let go of the drama and embraced all of the many good things that I hold so close to my heart and things have never been better. I now sing about my happiness to other audiences and I go to bed every night with a smile on my face, knowing that I am loved.
My husband has returned to Portland, full time, from the Bay Area and we have immersed ourselves into a plethora of creativity. His health is much better than it was, even a year ago. He attributes this to our being together so much of the time now. I am watchful over is health, feed him good, home-cooked food and make sure he gets lots of exercise. He seems so happy, and I’m glad he is home. He is writing plays and working with a partner on creating original musical scores for his plays. I have the biggest art commission of my life, am working on my novel every day. I have successfully completed the composition of two country and western songs that will soon be ready to shop. I and am putting a new business together and am also spending lots of time with Ingrid in these last days before she is immersed into French school. I am thoroughly enjoying the wonderful city where we live. John and I are reorganizing our home and getting rid of possessions that we no longer need. Everything is about moving ahead and being happy.
Everything that we are doing, together and individually, can be either directly or indirectly attributed to making the best choices about letting go of the dead weight of the crazies. I cannot believe I ever hesitated.
Life is so uncomplicated now. Why didn’t I make these decisions years ago?
I kid you not. I almost fainted when I watched this the first time. It is divine….in every possible way.
Lavender has been studied recently for several purposes including treatment of mood and anxiety disorders, as well as a number of other things. Its analgesic effect, however, its painkiller effect, is one of the widely studied properties. Surprising, then, that there hasn’t apparently been a single documented clinical trial to study lavender for the treatment of migraine headaches that affects tens of millions of Americans every year. Until now: “Lavender Essential Oil in the Treatment of Migraine Headache: A Placebo-Controlled Clinical Trial.”
Migraine sufferers were asked to—at the early signs of headache—rub 2–3 drops of the lavender essential oil onto their upper lip and inhale its vapor for a 15-min period of time and score the severity of their headache for the next two hours. In the control group they did the same thing except they used drops of basically unscented liquid wax. Neither group was allowed to use any painkillers. In the lavender group 74% of patients had an improvement in their symptoms, significantly better than placebo. Though in the study lavender wasn’t directly compared to more conventional treatments, lavender appears to stack up pretty well compared to typical drugs. Lavender helped about three quarters of the time, high dose Tylenol only works about half the time, and Ibuprofen 57% of the time. The #1 prescription drug, generic imitrex, is effective 59% of the time, and then the hardcore treatment they use in emergency rooms where they inject you under the skin, 70%. All of these work better than the original migraine therapy, known as trepanning, where doctors drilled a hole in your head to let the evil spirits escape.
Conclusion: The present study suggests that inhalation of lavender essential oil may be an effective and safe treatment modality in acute management of migraine headaches.
You can buy pharmaceutical grade lavender for $21 HERE.
Located at 2740 South Virginia St in Reno, Naan & Kabob, etc. came highly recommended by my best friend. I don’t think we would have tried it, if not for the recommendation, but both of us were happy that we did. The chef, Maurice Afraimi, was a colorful character who strolled from table to table telling tales of being the former neighbor of Steve Jobs in Palo Alto, and about how he prepares his delicious cuisine. When he stopped at our table, he told us about his former restaurant, Bourbon Street, that was for many years, located in Palo Alto, California. After we tried his delicious food, we begged him to open another in Portland. He said he would consider it.
Chef Maurice Afraimi
The prices were low and the food was outstanding. Chef Maurice accommodated our vegetarian preferences perfectly! We started off with pita bread and a freshly made red sauce, which is presented to each table with the chef’s compliments. Additionally, we ordered the Tzatziki, which is a delicious blend of yoghurt, lemon juice, dill and garlic. I serve this dish at home a lot, and is one of my favorite summertime snacks. It was cool and refreshing served with cucumber slices and Kalamata olives.
For my entree, I had Maurice’s Vegetable Pasta Barcelona, which was a dish consisting of penne pasta tossed gently in a creamy saffron/garlic sauce with delicious fire roasted vegetables. It was garnished with mild, crunchy, raw onions and chopped parsley, which gave it that certain je ne sais quoi. This dish was delightful.
I felt it fitting to include a glass of Greek wine with my meal, and enjoyed a glass of light, dry Boutari Moschofilero for the first time. It was the perfect compliment to the pasta.
John was not feeling as adventurous as I, so he ordered the very safe and typical vegetable combination of falafel, dolmads, tahini and hummus. It seems like he always orders the same thing, when we go to Greek restaurants. sigh….but he did comment that this particular food was delicious.
We split a baklava, which was atypical to most baklava, as you can see in the picture. This pastry was huge and absolutely wonderful! It was filled with pistachios and honey in a light, flaky crust….but it looked more like an egg role than a piece of baklava! Who’s complaining, though? We loved it!
The chef gave us cards that we can redeem the next time we’re in Reno, for yet another dessert. Both of us really enjoyed this little restaurant with its quaint atmosphere and friendly service. We shall definitely return! Thanks to my sweetheart friend for the recommendation!