Author Archives: Stacy Alexander, Writer/Artist

About Stacy Alexander, Writer/Artist

Stacy Alexander - mixed media artist and founder of Arte Alterado and Stacy Alexander's Silverthorn Studios. Mother of one daughter. Grandmother to Maya, Ingrid and Harry.

Tell me…

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If we de-fund meals for seniors, after school programs for children, arts, humanities, public broadcasting, environmental protection, ignore infrastructure, roll back protections against increased interest on crippling school loans, stifle scientific debate and dissemination of empirically sourced data, def-und education for our children, and distance ourselves from the rest of the World, including our allies, all the while substantially increasing military spending, subsidies, incentives, and tax breaks for corporations, will we be a better nation? Will we be the greatest Country on Earth? Will we honor the morals, goals, aspirations, and intents of the Founding Fathers? Will we create a stronger foundation for life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness?

Donald J. Trump is a monster.

Least we not forget….

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NEVER FORGET:1. Trump did not fire Flynn. Trump fired the woman who warned him about Flynn.

2. Trump knew about Flynn for three weeks and didn’t tell Pence (or anyone else). The Washington Post told Pence.

3. Trump isn’t concerned about Russian interference. Trump is concerned about the leaks that brought the interference to light.

4. Jason Chaffetz doesn’t think we need an investigation into Flynn and Russia (or the Yemen Raid). Chaffetz thought we needed 33 investigations .

Pegi Young, and Women Who Can’t Live Without Men

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You know the type.  Even though he cheats on her….even though he bashes her behind her back…even though he is a serial liar, she clings to him, because she can’t live without a man to accompany her. Regardless of what he does, she HAS to have a man beside her or she doesn’t feel worthy or complete.

However, if  you’re in a relationship with someone who used to make you happy and no longer does, what keeps you there is not love, it’s fear, so don’t talk to me about being soft-hearted or forgiving, because you’re a fool, if this applies to you, and everyone who knows the two of you also understands this.  They just don’t have the heart to tell you.

If he has cheated once, he will do it again…and HAS…and still continues to.   You think by staying in an unhappy and unfulfilling relationship you are doing the right thing.  You convince yourself that things will get better, that he’ll change and that it’s not that bad, you can live with things the way they are. But the truth is you can’t and you know it.   Pegi Young is a woman who has said, “To hell with it…” and has forged a whole new life for herself, despite the public humiliation of her former husband’s infidelities.  I admire her for this.

Pegi Young turned that negative experience into a positive one.  She turned it into art.

This morning, NPR did a show about how Neil Young had dumped his wife of 36 years for the younger, prettier Daryl Hannah, shown here relaxing in France.

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But this story isn’t really about Neil Young.  It is about his ex wife, Pegi….the woman who was jilted….because she didn’t ‘just crawl into a hole and go away.  She embraced what happened to her in a way that puts Neil to shame.  Yes, “the best revenge is living well,” or so they say, and Pegi Young is doing just that.

I’ve heard a lot of people criticize her for putting out this album and drawing attention to herself at “this age” but I love it that she did this. Her album is not necessarily my cup of tea, and I have been a Neil Young fan forever, but I admire Pegi for taking the reigns and being in command of her own destiny regardless of what he did to her. Making this album demonstrated tremendous inner strength, and it doesn’t matter how old she is, what she looks like, how “jilted” she was when she did it.  She did it to heal, and I admire her for it.

Her new album is called, “Raw”….and it is.  She said that writing the songs that are on it is what got her through, i.e. saved her life. Each of her new songs deals with one of the seven stages of grief.  In this song, “Trying to Live my Life Without You,” Pegi wrote, “We regretted the changes that brought us to now. I’d take it all back if I only knew how. You can drive on away with the weight of demand. And the road keeps on going until you find where you land….”

She has made a statement that makes HER look like the better person. She has taken a pile of shit and turned it into gold.  I have so much respect for a person who does something like this instead of deciding to wallow in the shit as their lives go by with disrespect from their partners.  Pegi Young is a strong woman.  A REAL woman, and she has my respect.

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Blasting the Fascia

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For me, it all started when I had some  MFR (myofascial release therapy) done on my right calf. Myofascial release (MFR) therapy focuses on releasing muscular shortness and tightness. There are a number of conditions and symptoms that myofascial release therapy addresses.

Fascia is the head to toe, arm to arm, inside-out connective tissue. It divides our muscles and penetrates them like the internal skin of an orange. It also surrounds virtually every structure of the human body. If we were able to peek inside our bodies and only see the fascia, we would look like a human form of cotton candy with mummy-like bandages running throughout. The entire fascia system is connected in ONE piece like a 3D spider-web.

When my daughter-in-law, Katherine, started talking to me about her experiences with the new fascia guru, Ashley Black, I signed on to a Facebook group that pertains to the topic of “fascia blasting”.

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Fascia blasting consists of using specific tools to loosen the fascia throughout the body, from head to toe.  It is accredited for doing everything from restoring hair loss to body sculpting, to getting rid of neck “waddle” and crows feet.  In 30 days, it can make a person go from a pockled cellulite carrier to a smooth sailing, fit-looking body babe, as shown in the pictures below.

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The Fascia Blasters, as these tools are called, come in a variety of sizes, all intended to do the same thing.  That is, release the fascia that binds fat to bone.

Ashley Black  explains there are 4 types of fascia:

  1. Structural fascia- Runs in long strips through the body. Visible in chicken meat just below the skin. The white silky membrane.
  2. Inter-structural fascia- Is present inside muscles and connects muscles to other muscles and to the bones. Visible when eating steak, the cobweb-like material.
  3. Visceral fascia- The “goop” inside our abdominal cavity that surrounds our organs and digestive system.
  4. Spinal fascia- the straw like thick casing that surrounds the spinal column

The fascia has a brush point with literally every other system of the body. It is as, or more significant than any other system. Having loose, healthy fascia is vital for overall health and well-being. Healthy fascia also makes us look, feel, and function better!

SO…..

I purchased a fascia blaster.  I also purchased a mini fascia blaster and a “fake” (not Ashley Black brand) facial fascial blaster.  I have to say, the results have been amazing!  I have redistributed the tissue around my knees to be much more attractive than it was before.  I have completely rid myself of a slight double chin.  I have carved out my abs and the under side of my arms.  I am making progress over my entire body.  Fascia Blasting really works!

The idea is to heat the fascia via a sauna or hot shower, then to blast away using the above-noted tools. Expect bruising at first, but that just tells you that the fascia blasting is working.  You can use arnica to heal the bruises quickly.  Ashley also recommends that one drink a good detox tea, because blasting fascia releases all kinds of toxins in the body….so expect to feel a little wimpy at first, but this quickly goes away, and the practice becomes pleasurable.  It feels great to fascia blast these days.

Here are a few videos that tell more:

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Botox…It’s not just for wrinkles anymore

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Botox  is most commonly associated with smoothing out wrinkles to give the face a fresher, more youthful appearance. However, it has other  benefits  beyond this.  Botox can be used to minimize or stop excessive perspiration. Men use it these days, to gain relief from enlarged prostates.

Pending further research, doctors are hopeful that the treatment will  also be useful in the treatment of pain associated with arthritis.

Some of the other benefits are:

Brow Lifts

As people age, their eyebrows are prone to sagging.  Botox Cosmetic® is now commonly used to lift that brow, resulting in  a more energized, youthful appearance .  Botox brow lifts look much more natural than surgical lifts, but they don’t last as long, and have to be refreshed every 3-6 months, depending on the patient.

Strabismus

Strabismus  is a condition in which the eyes do not line up evenly in the same direction. It is best known as “crossed-eyes”, and  approximately  4% of Americans have this condition.  Botox has been used for treatment of strabismus for quite some time now, and has had surprisingly successful results.

Overactive Bladder

Botox has been approved by the FDA and is used to treat thousands of women in America each year for overactive bladder.  Women love Botox because it can help reduce a number of their bladder leaks considerably.

Chronic Migraines

Migraine headaches can go hand in hand with  nausea and sensitivity to sound and light. The FDA has approved treatment of these debilitating migraines with Botox.  A series of 31 injections are administered to seven different areas of the head and neck with results expected to last up to three months, depending on each individual.

Lips

Botox Cosmetic® can be  used in combination with fillers, such as Restylane,  to treat the lips and give them a fuller appearance, such as that of my granddaughter, Maya, pictured below.  Maya does not have Botox in her lips, because she is very young, but if she wants to maintain this look in her 40s and above, Botox may be the best solution.

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Whether one prefers to age naturally, or chooses to have a little help from cosmetic treatments, such as Botox, is up to the individual.  As for me?  I get by with a little help from my friends….and I’ve never used Botox.  😉

Stumptown Winter

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Cold season’s sky

The color of

old men’s teeth.

Discouraging,

like poverty,

a hapless, heavy gray.

Freezing rain.

Needles piercing tattooed skin

Staggering,

Like an angry crowd’s

paralytic crush.

Then a bud,

A blade of chartreuse grass.

It only takes an infant’s smile

To excise labor’s pain.

By Stacy Alexander, 2017

On “Working With” Trump

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This blog is a vehicle to express outrage of how far my country has fallen on the humanity gauge. To me it is a useful vehicle for my activism.     Someone posted the following sentiments on Facebook yesterday, and I am re-posting them here, because they precisely express my position at this time:

45ish and his cronies and the majority of the Republicans in congress are a threat to me and my way of life. So I will #RESIST and I will be part of the resistance (and proud of it).

Some people are saying that we should give 45ish a chance, that we should “work together” with him because he won the election and he is everyone’s president.This is my response:

I will treat this President just like he and so many others treated former President Barack Obama for 8 years…I will not “work together” to build a wall.

I will not “work together” to persecute Muslims.

I will not “work together” to shut out refugees from countries where we destabilized their governments, no matter how bad they might have been, so that we could have something more agreeable to our oligarchy.

I will not “work together” to lower taxes on the 1%.

I will not “work together” to increase taxes on the middle class and poor.

I will not “work together” to help him line the pockets of himself and his cronies.

I will not “work together” to weaken (or demolish) environmental protection.

I will not “work together” to sell American lands to companies which then despoil those lands.

I will not “work together” to remove civil rights from anyone.

I will not “work together” to waste trillions more on our military when we already have the strongest in the world.

I will not “work together” to alienate countries that have been our allies for as long as I have been alive.

I will not “work together” to slash funding for education.

I will not “work together” to increase the immunity the police already have when they kill people of color (or anyone!) who is unarmed and does not pose any real threat.

I will not “work together” to take basic assistance from people who are at the bottom of the socioeconomic ladder.

I will not “work together” to allow torture and “black op” prison sites.

I will not “work together” to “take their oil.”

I will not “work together” to get rid of common sense regulations on guns.

I will not “work together” to eliminate the minimum wage.

I will not “work together” to suppress scientific research, be it on climate change, fracking, or any other issue where a majority of scientists agree that Trump and his supporters are wrong on the facts.

I will not “work together” to criminalize abortion or restrict health care for women.

I will not “work together” to increase the number of nations that have nuclear weapons.

I will not “work together” to put even more “big money” into politics.

I will not “work together” to violate the Geneva Convention.

I will not “work together” to give the Ku Klux Klan, the Nazi Party and white supremacists a seat at the table, or to normalize their hatred.

I will not “work together” to deny health care to people who need it.

I will not “work together” to increase the profits of the insurance companies.

I will not “work together” to deny medical coverage to people on the basis of an alleged or actual “pre-existing condition.”

I will not “work together” to increase voter suppression.

I will not “work together” to normalize tyranny.

I will not “work together” with anyone who is, or admires, tyrants and dictators.

I will not “work together” with 45ish or anyone who supports him, because I will not allow one man to feed upon the fears of the populace, blaming minorities for their condition or their inability to thrive. (Yes, I’ve read those books before.)

I will use my voice and my hands, to reach out to the uninformed, and anyone else who’ll LISTEN. About 45ish, his friends and the Big Lie:That “winning”, “being great again”, “rich” or even “beautiful” is nothing… if no one else is around.

What I Do

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As I work to open my new business, I find that a lot of people are unfamiliar with what I do as an Integrative Wellness and Life Coach.

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What is an Integrative Wellness and Life Coach?

As founder of Ajahn Life, I feel I should write a little bit about myself so that you will understand who I am and what I do.  I received my masters degree in Psychology from Southern New Hampshire University, and feel that I got an excellent education.   Most recently, however, I underwent more specialized training to be an integrative wellness and life coach through the Integrative Wellness Academy in California.

Some of you may have questions about what exactly it is that I do. First, I am a life coach.  A life coach is someone who typically is known for helping client reach a specific goal or to make a wanted change in his or her life.  I can do that, but my training goes far beyond that.

The word, “Integrative” means to combine allpathic and complementary therapies and/or serving or intending to unify separate things.  A life coach is traditionally defined as a person who counsels and encourages clients on matters having to do with careers or personal challenges.  An Integrative Wellness & Life Coach has knowledge and training in “integrative” approaches in the areas of mental, emotional, spiritual and physical wellness.  This is referred to as “Wholeness in Balance.”

The approach that I use moves life coaching from simply counseling and encouraging, to fully equipping and empowering my clients to make the effective changes they need to come into balance within the aforementioned areas of mental, emotional, spiritual and physical wellness.

My clients can experience and expect to walk away with a personal plan to move them towards wellness and health in the areas of mind (thought life and patterns), emotions (emotions and relationships), physical (this can mean physical health or physical surroundings and situations, such as career or finance) and spiritual health (awareness and spirituality.)

What I do, really, is to use specific proven techniques and tools to help you get from where you are, to where you want to be in life.  I accept clients on an individual basis, and conduct workshops where I utilize my skills with other practitioners from different areas, to help clients reach their maximum potential.

My rates are $150 per hour for individual clients, and a predetermined, discounted, fixed rate for workshop clients who purchase a retreat package. At this time, our retreats are in the planning stages, but I will have more information about that soon.

“Dress Like a Woman” Part 2

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45 announced recently, that  he wanted any female on his staff to “dress like a woman.”  I asked my friends on Facebook to post photos of their ideas of how a woman should dress, and I posted my own.  I’ll begin with that one, and show you what everyone else posted as well.

When you “dress like a woman,” this is what you look like:

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These are all examples of what women dress like.

This is an example of 45’s idea of how a woman should dress.  This is his wife, the FLOTUS.

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Make America Nasty Again!

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I feel so honored!  Today, a right winger, bitter clingin’ Trumpite referred to me as a….you guessed it…a NASTY WOMAN!   I couldn’t have been more thrilled. I had merely pointed out that Melania Trump was a former stripper, and pow!  I am a bit perplexed, however, because I’m not the one who stripped for money.  That was the pretty mizzrus.   Our FLOTUS.  SHE is the stripper, not I.  Anyway, it really tickled me to be part of the 100 words in this person’s vocabulary.  (snicker)

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I’m not going to engage with this woman further, but if I did, this is what I would say:

If you voted for trump because you believe in fiscal conservatism, you should be furious that your tax dollars are going to build a wall that will have zero impact on the effects of immigration.
If you voted for the trump to “drain the swamp” you have been hoodwinked because he filled his cabinet with more conflict of interest than any ever.
If you hate the left because of “Political Correctness,” you need to be asking yourself if you’re okay with trump censoring communications from MULTIPLE government organizations like the National Park Service, the EPA and more.


If you voted because you hated Secretary Clinton’s email server, I expect you to be calling your representatives to ask why trump, Steve Bannon and others continue to use their unsecured personal emails and why your president is still using an unsecured Android device.


If you believe that fertilized eggs are people but refugee children are not, you need to stop acting like your concerns are religious, ’cause you’re no Christian, sweetie.


If you voted because you believed trump  would better protect you against terrorists, you need to ask yourself why it’s okay that your president just took away $130 million in anti-terror funds from New York with his punishment of Sanctuary Cities.


If you are angry that your insurance is too expensive, you should ask why your senators are repealing ACA without a replacement, an action that will leave 20 million people without insurance at all.


If you wanted to bring jobs back to the US you should be angry that Mar a Lago just hired another round of international workers, over Americans.


If you were concerned with national security I expect you to be concerned with the restructuring of the National Security Council with an anti semitic, fascist, racist, misogynistic domestic abuser.


If you believe the Clinton Initiative provided unequal treatment to countries that supported their foundation, you should be livid that trump has moved to block visas from Muslim countries like Syria, Iraq, Iran, Libya, Somalia, Sudan and Yemen, but not places where he has business ties like Egypt, Qatar, Turkey, United Arab Emirates and Saudi Arabia. Not only that, but the countries that are blocked have literally BILLIONS of American business dollars invested in them and are considering blocking people from the US.  Trump doesn’t have business interests in these particular countries, so in effect, he will be destroying his own business competition while letting known terrorist countries into America willingly. 

But hey….You want to call me names? Have at it!  I’m proud to be who I am, and I’m ashamed to share my country with you.

This is About Insurance

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This is about insurance:
This is the most straightforward explanation of the nature of insurance and health savings accounts I have seen.
Insurance is a way of sharing the cost of risk. Health insurance is no different. It is a lottery where you buy a ticket and bet you are going to lose and hope you don’t at the same time. There is no free lunch.


We all need to understand this: First, for those who are confused, the Affordable Care Act, “ACA,” is the same thing as “Obamacare.”


Now, when Trump or Paul Ryan say they want to replace the ACA with “Health Savings Accounts” (HSAs), they are also saying they want to replace Obamacare or Medicare or Medicaid with YOU paying for your healthcare.


That means YOU pay for chemotherapy…YOU pay for all surgeries and hospitalization… YOU pay for all your family’s doctor visits, urgent care, ER visits, and prescription drugs out-of-our-pocket.
A Health Savings Account is just a tax-free way for you to save up money to pay for your own medical bills. So if you are paying off college loans, or saving for a house down-payment, or simply living paycheck to paycheck, guess what — a Health Savings Account does you no good, unless you have discretionary funds to deposit into it. And even if you manage to save five grand or ten grand in an HSA, that could all get wiped out in one hospital visit for you or a family member. Then you are back to square zero again.


Even if you can supplement your HSA with affordable health insurance, you will be eating away at money that you should be investing for your retirement or your kids’ college tuition.
Statistics reveal only the top 3-5% of Americans can save enough for retirement, college AND their own out-of-pocket medical expenses. Therefore, the tax benefits of HSA’s will only help those people.


Please call your Congress member to express your concern.

Pay Attention, People!

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lF YOU’RE NOT PAYING ATTENTION THIS IS WHAT TRUMP HAS ALREADY CRUSHED FROM OUR GOVERNMENT!!! TRUMP MAKING AMERICA GREAT AGAIN……FOR WHOM???

· To recap:

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the DOJ’s Violence Against Women programs.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the National Endowment for the Arts.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the National Endowment for the Humanities.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Corporation for Public Broadcasting.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Minority Business Development Agency.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Economic Development Administration.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the International Trade Administration.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Manufacturing Extension Partnership.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Office of Community Oriented Policing Services.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Legal Services Corporation.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Civil Rights Division of the DOJ.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Environmental and Natural Resources Division of the DOJ.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Overseas Private Investment Corporation.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the UN Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Office of Electricity Deliverability and Energy Reliability.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Office of Energy Efficiency and Renewable Energy.

* On January 19th, 2017, DT said that he would cut funding for the Office of Fossil Energy.

* On January 20th, 2017, DT ordered all regulatory powers of all federal agencies frozen.

* On January 20th, 2017, DT ordered the National Parks Service to stop using social media after RTing factual, side by side photos of the crowds for the 2009 and 2017 inaugurations.

* On January 20th, 2017, roughly 230 protestors were arrested in DC and face unprecedented felony riot charges. Among them were legal observers, journalists, and medics.

* On January 20th, 2017, a member of the International Workers of the World was shot in the stomach at an anti-fascist protest in Seattle. He remains in critical condition.

* On January 21st, 2017, DT brought a group of 40 cheerleaders to a meeting with the CIA to cheer for him during a speech that consisted almost entirely of framing himself as the victim of dishonest press.

* On January 21st, 2017, White House Press Secretary Sean Spicer held a press conference largely to attack the press for accurately reporting the size of attendance at the inaugural festivities, saying that the inauguration had the largest audience of any in history, “period.”

* On January 22nd, 2017, White House advisor Kellyann Conway defended Spicer’s lies as “alternative facts” on national television news.

* On January 22nd, 2017, DT appeared to blow a kiss to director James Comey during a meeting with the FBI, and then opened his arms in a gesture of strange, paternal affection, before hugging him with a pat on the back.

* On January 23rd, 2017, DT reinstated the global gag order, which defunds international organizations that even mention abortion as a medical option.

* On January 23rd, 2017, Spicer said that the US will not tolerate China’s expansion onto islands in the South China Sea, essentially threatening war with China.

* On January 23rd, 2017, DT repeated the lie that 3-5 million people voted “illegally” thus costing him the popular vote.

* On January 23rd, 2017, it was announced that the man who shot the anti-fascist protester in Seattle was released without charges, despite turning himself in.

* On January 24th, 2017, Spicer reiterated the lie that 3-5 million people voted “illegally” thus costing DT the popular vote.

* On January 24th, 2017, DT tweeted a picture from his personal Twitter account of a photo he says depicts the crowd at his inauguration and will hang in the White House press room. The photo is curiously dated January 21st, 2017, the day AFTER the inauguration and the day of the Women’s March, the largest inauguration related protest in history.

* On January 24th, 2017, the EPA was ordered to stop communicating with the public through social media or the press and to freeze all grants and contracts.

* On January 24th, 2017, the USDA was ordered to stop communicating with the public through social media or the press and to stop publishing any papers or research. All communication with the press would also have to be authorized and vetted by the White House.

* On January 24th, 2017, HR7, a bill that would prohibit federal funding not only to abortion service providers, but to any insurance coverage, including Medicaid, that provides abortion coverage, went to the floor of the House for a vote.

* On January 24th, 2017, Director of the Department of Health and Human Service nominee Tom Price characterized federal guidelines on transgender equality as “absurd.”

* On January 24th, 2017, DT ordered the resumption of construction on the Dakota Access Pipeline, while the North Dakota state congress considers a bill that would legalize hitting and killing protestors with cars if they are on roadways.

* On January 24th, 2017, it was discovered that police officers had used confiscated cell phones to search the emails and messages of the 230 demonstrators now facing felony riot charges for protesting on January 20th, including lawyers and journalists whose email accounts contain privileged information of clients and sources.

And today: the wall and a Muslim ban.

Teachers Can Change Lives

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I woke this morning to find my husband in tears…but they were happy tears. He had just received an email from a student from 20 years ago. I wanted to share it with you, because it just goes to show how much positive influence a good teacher can have. It made me so proud to read this:

Hello, Dr. Freed!

Xxxxx and I were thinking of you this morning, and so I decided to share some of our happy thoughts with you!

I think your teaching made a strong impact on both of us. I have never considered until this morning that Xxxxx and I fell in love in your class.. I wonder how much of a success factor it was that we shared ourselves in that environment, through the stories we wrote?

You assigned us the challenge of writing original fiction short stories every week. As I faced rejection from his parents because of my father’s West African contribution to my skin, I explored my thoughts in writing. My first story for your class featured a European-American male in a secret relationship with a girl he wasn’t supposed to love – a slave. You listened with full attention, looking over your wonderful half-glasses, and I felt heard.

I also heard you. Really heard you. At age 17, I respected and believed you when you told our class that we were special. You told me a phrase I’ve repeated to myself often, when I felt blocked in writing: “Your writing is worth waiting for, because what you write is good.” That single vote of confidence has saved me from despair a number of times. It grew in me like a Rama word. I remember a few key lessons from you clearly. You taught me that a title had to have the right balance between providing information and attention-getting. You said that no writer could produce a story that didn’t reflect his own life, in some way. There was no real separation between author and product, and the writer who is honest with herself must come to terms with how much of her work is fantasy and how much is a look in the mirror.

You shared yourself with us, too, through your own writing. Both Xxxxx and I remember your short story about the robber who came and broke into a heart. On a lighter note, we also remember how you made us laugh as we analyzed James Joyce. You asked us what the meaning of “bottle green eyes” might be, and Xxxxx answered quickly, “A leprechaun!”

In spite of meeting my spouse in Freshman English, your film critique class was my favorite. Do you know that I cannot watch a film today without hearing the voice of Dr. Freed? You ask me, regularly, “Why was THAT song playing in the background? Did you hear those lyrics?” I often tell my own four children today that “Every word is a choice.” That’s a Freed film class phrase for sure. 🙂

We miss hearing from you, and maybe that’s why I’m writing you now. I imagine that you aren’t on Facebook, but that you might be sharing yourself and your wisdom
through your stories. I’m sure you’re writing prolifically; is any of your work available for the public (or us) to read? I saw that you’ve written some pieces for theater?

You attended our wedding when I was 20 and Xxxxx was 22. We will celebrate 20 years this June! Here is a picture of our family of 6, grown through both birth and adoption. Our 15 year old son XXXXX is almost 16; XXXXX is 13; XXXXX is 8; and XXXXX is 7. We still remember that when we met you, you told us stories about your skinny 16 year old son who was 6 feet tall. Parenting seemed so lofty and removed from us then.. Now our own nearly 16 year old son is 6’2, and I’ve written more than a few short stories about raising little people. Time flies!

What became of your two students?

We are living the life of liberal arts graduates, I suppose, if that means using various talents in our careers and free time! Xxxxx graduated from UST with a BA in Biology and Philosophy and went on to earn a Master of Arts in Marriage and Family Therapy. However, he currently works as a software developer in the IT consulting firm we own together. Ha!

The late, great Dr. Gordon-Kelter would be proud of the diversity. He still loves dogs as much as ever. (Do you remember telling me that you knew Xxxxx heart was good because you’d read what he’d written about dogs?). For my own part, I was a UST French major who minored in biology, went on to earn an MBA (Management Information Systems) from UST and to work as a software consultant, and am now a practicing licensed marriage and family therapist. If it helps my case for a unifying theme, though, I did speak French throughout my IT career. 🙂

May God bless you! I wish you the very best in all you do. One day, we want to see one of the screenplays you always dreamed of writing – I think you said there would be a theme of a blue car that appeared in all of your films. Is that still the plan?

Warmly,

XXXXX and XXXXX