1. Science has shown that a beautiful face attracts more lovers than a beautiful body.
One of the preconditions for loving feelings is a sense of safety and trust. In order to connect lovingly and empathically, one’s prefrontal cortex has to send a signal to his or her amygdala – the brain’s alarm center, to switch off your automatic “fight or flight” response. People with childhood trauma, neglect, abuse, or those that are being controlled by another person experience threatened secure attachment, may have a harder time switching off “fight-flight-freeze” and feeling safe enough to love. This reticence can be overcome with therapy or, sometimes, by a partner who repeatedly demonstrates trustworthiness and care rather than rage and control. However, if repeated expressions of care are not reciprocated by any heart softening in your partner, it could be time for you to consider moving on. I like to think of it this way. Love actually IS unconditional. RELATIONSHIPS are not.